How can parents guide their children to study, live and work in an orderly way during the winter vacation, which tests their patience and wisdom? The first education launched a series of "class teachers", inviting class teachers from many schools in Shanghai to give advice to parents on "working with their children".
The topic of this issue revolves around "good habit cultivation": gather "little tigers" with your children and guide them to develop good habits.
Author | Shanghai Jiangning School Liu Beiyun
Ye Shengtao, a famous educationist in modern times, once said: "What is education? In a simple way, just one sentence is to form good habits." It is said that good habits benefit life, however, the cultivation of good habits is not easy. Holidays are not only a time for children to relax and adjust, but also the best time to develop good habits. Dear parents, are you worried about "Little Beast" because of its disorder in work and rest, its love of sleeping late, its boredom at home, its idleness, its over-relaxation, and its unwillingness to study?
On the eve of school, we might as well accompany our children to gather the "little tigers" and guide them to develop good habits.
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"Weiwei Tiger" with regular work and rest
First of all, we need to work out a schedule with our children and supervise its implementation.
1, the plan should be appropriate
Mom and dad should allocate their time reasonably and scientifically around the main tasks in the holiday according to the actual situation of their children. In the process of consultation and formulation together, they should respect the children’s own ideas and put forward appropriate opinions and suggestions, so as to guide the children to achieve a reasonable and orderly combination of work and rest. Planning should have time to "leave blank" and set aside some discretionary time for children every day.
2, plan execution should be strict.
If "fishing for three days and drying the net for two days", isn’t that a "fake plan"? Therefore, it is necessary to supervise the implementation of the plan. Once the plan cannot be carried out in an emergency, we should guide and help children to make adjustments, so that children can understand that important things must be completed first, and things affected by emergencies can be postponed, but they should also be guaranteed to be completed.
3. There is feedback when the plan is completed.
According to the age characteristics of children, the evaluation nodes of plan implementation are divided. Children in lower grades can be evaluated daily, and children in middle and upper grades can be evaluated in the middle of the week and at weekends.
If the plan is implemented in place, it should be praised and encouraged in time, and spiritual encouragement is more worthy of praise.
For example: watch a movie with children, visit an amusement park, play a board game that children like, and increase the time for free activities on weekends.
If the implementation of the plan is not ideal, let the children find out the reasons themselves and improve in time.



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"Xiao Zhi Tiger" for Effective Learning
During the holidays, you also have to study.
The significance of winter vacation study lies in keeping the habit and concentration of study. Learning here can be a review of what you learned last semester, a preview of what you will learn next semester, and more importantly, it should include reading extracurricular books every day.
Just sitting at a desk for a fixed time every day and reading an extracurricular book every day can’t be regarded as "effective learning".
To review the old knowledge, we should do: we can summarize and organize. To prepare for the preview, we should be able to ask questions and think. Winter vacation is a good time to do a lot of reading. Choosing suitable reading materials and cooperating with scientific reading methods can improve reading ability with half the effort.
1, the time schedule is exquisite.
The pace of pre-review, homework and reading should be reasonable and the progress should be moderate.
2. Learning companionship is focused.
According to the specific situation of children, parents focus on learning attitude, ability or help to lay a solid foundation. Whether the handwriting in the exercise book is correct or not, and the degree of concentration during homework are all important considerations in judging "effective learning".
3. There are methods for parent-child reading.
When helping children to choose reading materials, parents should not only follow their children’s interest characteristics, but also guide them to dabble in different types of books, classics, biographies, poetry essays, scientific sketches and so on.
A book can be used as a parent-child bibliography for family reading every week to guide children to enrich their reading experience and promote independent thinking by doing excerpts, writing experiences, reading book reviews and imitating paragraphs.
In this process, parents should have full reading communication with their children, summarize the contents of books with their children, understand the author’s situation, or experience the feelings of characters.
There are often parents who are worried that their children can’t write a composition: "I have read a lot of books, so why can’t I write a composition at all?" In fact, there is a problem that the "input" in the reading process is not in place, and the companionship of parents in parent-child reading can help improve this situation.


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A "darling tiger" who takes care of himself.
Mr Tao Xingzhi said that "life is education". During the holidays, children go out of school and have more time and energy to deal with daily life. Parents can use the holidays to let their children unlock some life skills, so that they can gradually do their own things and help with things at home.
1, the labor project should be appropriate.
According to the actual situation of children, cultivate their awareness and habits of labor, choose suitable labor projects, and mobilize their enthusiasm for labor.
2, labor guidance should be patient.
It always takes a process for children to learn new skills. At first, it may not be ideal or even helpful. Parents should be patient and tolerant of children’s mistakes, and don’t let them try again because they are too troublesome.
3, labor evaluation should be timely.
In the process of helping children to take care of themselves, parents should adhere to positive guidance and evaluate their children’s labor achievements in time, so that children can feel the value and significance of labor, thus mobilizing higher enthusiasm for participating in labor.



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"Tigger" who loves sports
The importance of sports for children’s healthy growth is self-evident. It can not only make children have a strong body, but also help children improve their concentration, cultivate strong will and exercise their social skills.
Nowadays, "Sunshine Sports Hour" has become a compulsory course for children in school life, and children should also insist on participating in physical exercise during holidays. The purpose of sports is to exercise the body and mind, so parents can choose suitable sports according to their children’s age and interests, arouse their children’s enthusiasm for participation, and let them enjoy the fun of sports and the sense of accomplishment in the process of playing.
1, the combination of knowledge and interest
This year’s winter vacation coincides with the Winter Olympics. Parents may wish to learn about the knowledge of the Winter Olympics with their children and understand the unique charm of ice and snow sports. If possible, they can also take their children to experience it for themselves.
2. Perseverance is the key.
Persistence is the key to exercise, and the intensity of exercise should be arranged step by step, so as to be scientific and controllable and safety first.
3, role models are indispensable.
If children want to love sports, parents should set an example. They should not only make good use of sports resources in their lives and seize sports opportunities, but also strive to create an atmosphere in which family sports play together. Morning running with children, badminton for two and parent-child sports games are all great choices!



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A "thunderbolt tiger" who cherishes time and keeps promises.
Many teachers may feel the same way as me. Every time I start school, I will find that there are obvious differences among the children who used to behave almost in all aspects in the class, which is not unrelated to holiday life.
During the holidays, it is inevitable that some children will relax their requirements, and the use of electronic products such as mobile phones and ipad will be relatively relaxed. Some senior children never leave their mobile phones all day, and they enjoy brushing short videos, chatting with people and playing games online, so their eyesight is inevitable. Once you are addicted to it, it is naturally difficult to keep up with the normal learning rhythm when you start school, and the difference arises. Therefore, parents should pay special attention to the control of their children’s electronic products during holidays.
In life, some children are labeled as "other people’s children". Sometimes it is surprising that these children are excellent in their studies, have a wide range of interests, and even play games very well!
According to my observation, IQ and ability are part of the reason, but the most important reason is self-discipline and efficiency.
They have clear goals and strong actions. When they know how to study, they will study hard and concentrate on it. Only in this way can they enjoy themselves while playing. The formation of these good habits is the result of parents’ high-quality companionship.
1, take three chapters to make rules
In the information age, it is impossible for children not to touch electronic products, but for minors, parents must have a prior agreement with their children, and the duration of use and the content of browsing should be limited.
2. Priorities should be clearly defined
From an early age, parents should help their children with time management training and teach them to correctly deal with what they like to do and what they must do.
3. There are clever ways to reduce "dependence"
For children who use electronic products too much, parents should not only set a good example and reduce the use of mobile phones in front of their children for a long time, but also analyze the reasons why children are obsessed with games. For children who want to gain a sense of accomplishment from games, parents should pay more attention to multiple evaluations and give their children recognition of "self-worth". For children who just want to experience the game process, parent-child companionship, the cultivation of hobbies and increasing peer interaction are good ways to reduce dependence.


In order to successfully collect these five "little tigers",
Please check the following three tips:
First, the habit of Excellence is the real Excellence.
Knowledge is not enough, you can learn slowly; Ability is not enough, you can cultivate it slowly. Only good habits can’t wait.
Second, good habits are the product of perseverance.
Habit formation is not achieved overnight, and it can only be achieved by continuous efforts and persistence towards the goal.
Third, the reward mechanism is a necessary means to develop good habits.
Finding children’s little progress and using appropriate reward mechanism will help to make them happy, stimulate their motivation and help them to be full of upward motivation.
In the Year of the Tiger, let the lovely five "little tigers" accompany the children, sow good habits and reap happy growth.
Author: Liu Beiyun, Jiangning School, Shanghai
Xiao Fuhu: Kong Lingzhe, Class 53, Jiangning School, Shanghai
Photo courtesy: Ke Yuetong, Wu Tianyu, Huang Zijun, Zhou Yunyu, Class 53, Jiangning School, Shanghai
Shangguan author: the first education